Ode to New York


My husband Darrell and I have been traveling consistently for over two years now. When I say “traveling” I don’t mean vacationing here or there for a week at a time, but instead uprooting our lives every 3 to 6 months to move somewhere new. We’ve been east coast to west coast and in between, exploring each new city with an excitement and energy that blooms new in us each time, falling in love with new places again and again. It has truly been the most exciting and happy time of my life. We began our adventures in Baltimore, MD in March of 2015 and are now living in our favorite city of New York, NY. More on that later!



I travel nursed once before years ago at the age of 25. The first time I moved to New York, I was in a very damaging relationship. I was too young, too soft, and far too inexperienced. The city was daunting to me, frightening even. I had accepted my first travel position and it was the most stressful job of my life, still to this day. I was a girl who had never lived anywhere but southern Mississippi, and I suddenly found myself all alone in a city that was completely foreign to me.



And although I can honestly say that this was one of the most difficult experiences of my life, I am proud to say that I grew from it exponentially. I learned not only the type of person I would not want to share my life with, but also how to grow into a stronger and more self-sufficient person, which holds such a great importance to me now. I also learned that I could survive on my own in perhaps one of the toughest of cities if I needed to, something I had definitely never tested before. It is for this reason that I am forever grateful for those experiences. After moving away from New York about a year later, all that was “displeasing” about the city slowly faded from my memory, and all that was left was the things about it that I had loved, and the way it had made me feel more like myself than any other place I had been.



I’ve heard a lot of people say lately that New York is a great place to visit, but they couldn’t see themselves living there. I know that most of this opposition is probably based on the hustle and bustle and overall expense of the city (which are legitimate hurdles to overcome), but to me personally, the positives about New York far outweigh the negatives.



I was fearful too before leaving my comfort zone and moving to Baltimore over two years ago. I was fearful again before moving back to this huge city where I swam and fought to keep myself afloat all those years ago. I will say though that once the challenges and fears were overcome, the freedom and happiness I’ve felt since have at times been overwhelming. There’s a lot about New York that can make it seem unfeasible for long term living, but it is fresh and exciting and has an energy I have never felt in another city. I love it more now than I ever did before, and there are so many things I would miss about it if we were to move somewhere new.



It helps additionally that I have such an amazing support system now in my husband, who knew that traveling would be a life changing experience for us. We had lived in our beautiful little Biloxi, Mississippi house for two years, and were completely restless. As much as we adored our home and the south, it just felt more and more as though we were meant for something bigger than the lives we were leading then. It turns out we were right. Moving to a new place felt so daunting after my last experience in New York, I didn’t know if I had it in me to try again.



We began to talk so often about the prospect of moving somewhere new, and the idea was vibrant and exciting – and terrifying. Where would we go? What would Darrell do in these new cities? Where would we live? What about our families? So many questions to answer, and so many reasons not to go. But I am so fortunate to be with someone who can talk me through the anxieties and work through the problems right by my side. It was all of this, along with my brimming curiosity and excitement, that eventually gave me that strength to venture out again into a world unknown. It is these adventures that I hope to share here in the coming months! I hope you’ll enjoy our story.


Thanks for reading,


Ellen









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